The Sarcastic Journalist is a freelance writer and mother of two living near Houston, Texas. She has a degree in journalism and an addiction to magazines. She is hoping never to experience the "joy" of pregnancy again. You can find much more of her home-grown snark at: shenuts.com
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Week 22 : I'm not a b*tch, I'm pregnant!
There were four words that drove me nuts every time I heard them while pregnant: How do you feel?
I know, I know, seems simple enough. Someone wants to know how you are feeling! How nice! Those words, although simple enough, seem loaded during pregnancy.
How do I feel? HOW DO I FEEL? I’m pregnant, my belly is stretching, I have cravings for peanut butter at 3 o’clock in the morning and my husband has affectionately nicknamed me “Pudgy.” How the heck do you think I feel?
The people who asked me this question always did with such concern. They’d place a hand on my shoulder, lean in and utter those four little words, much like I’d expect a doctor to say “It is malignant” to a patient.
My pregnancy hormones usually had a role in the way I answered. I’d have to bite my tongue not to reply something horrible about how I really felt.
How do I feel? I feel like shoving my foot up your butt if you ask me that stupid question just one more time.
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I usually wanna say
I have a soccer player in my uterus
my boobs ITCH like hell
I crave the FATTiEST foods at 2 in the morning
My back hurts and
Lord knows if I pee again im gonna marry my toilet
So tell me...how would yu feel??
Also hate in the earlier weeks of being pregnant "do you feel pregnant yet?" or when i get asked "are you bigger yet?"
Haha there is this girl living across from my apartment EVERY time she sees me "how you feelin mamma?" and it just gets so annoying i mean for me i think ive had a easy pregnancy i pretty much feel normal except for a huge belly in my way and occasional feeling bad and lazieness but aside from that i feel okay..so when i get asked that im just like what just because im pregnant im supposed to feel like crap all the time
I'm already at 8 and a half months so I decided to tell people"I"m f*cking fantastic.Best 9 months of my life."
Omg this is too funny. I know exactly what your going through. I have a friend that I work with and everytime she sees me she asks that question and I just want to scream.
i Cant believe how funny and how much i can relate to this! i just have to give people a nice smile grit my teeth n tell them how FINE i am! i'm also sick ohhh awww how far gone are you? whens it due? do you know the sex? arrrrrhg what nice people :)
I feel like this at times... I hate people walking up to me going "how you feelin??" I know they mean well but seriously?? you can normally tell how I'm feeling from weather or not I'm crying out "ouch" every five-ten mins cuz the baby just kicked my ribs/kidneys... I don't like people asking to touch my belly either...it disturbs me...
well that's true because i'am the same way i'am a b**** and i do belive that people tell me all the time that i'am acting like a b**** and i can't help that. so i just look around and tell them that's not my fault i'am
pergnant just leave me alone. that's the way i'am. and that's the way i fell
OMG! Those four little words have been DRIVING me LOCO at work. Everyone EVERYDAY keeps asking me, and it's so hard not to be annoyed because they say it with such concern. haha glad to see I'm not the only one annoyed with that question!
:))))
I FEEL THIS STATEMENT.. I've gained like 30 pounds already.. lol. and i feel like i can SNAP on just about everyone, and every little thing.. This is my second pregnancy and i dont know what is happening to me at all..lol.. HELP!!
haha that is so true I get so tired of people askin me how I feel . and it's funny at the same time . I love it
It's kind of strange to hear the different things that really drive pregnant women nuts. It doesn't bother me when people ask how I am doing. It makes me feel like someone cares. I know some women get really annoyed when people touch their bellies- not me. Then again, I really don't have raging hormones either. I was a bigger bitch before I got pregnant! It almost had a reverse effect on me.
I TELL YU GET PREGNANT AND YU SEE HOW IT FEELS.
I THINK SHE dont get how i feel i wish he did though
Yeah, right. But On the contrary, I am feeling nothing special, but they always make fuss about it, and asking me "How are you doin.."-question with such a patetic face that I am ready to shout at them and actually fell myself a basterd after all :(
god I wanted to stick a fork in my eye.
I haven't announced to too many people that I'm expecting yet since I'm in the first trimester. However, I am tired of my Mom treating me like I'm disabled just because I'm pregnant. She'd die if she saw how much walking I do at work...lol. We went somewhere last weekend and she accidentally knocked over her coffee on a linoleum or tiled floor. LOL...she wouldn't even let me get up and was like...don't worry, I'll get your drink and mine. She said that she'd hate to see me fall even though it was close to a foot away from me. I understand that she is thrilled that she'll be a Grandma again (she has a cutie for a granddaughter from my younger brother already;) and I know that her motherly instincts are kicking in probably so I just kept my little quip to myself. Anyway, it's just a little on the disheartening side to feel like people think you're disabled or crippled just because a baby is inside of you. Maybe I'm wrong...I know it will probably be harder later on when I'm bigger. I feel perfectly fine, I look absolutely BEAUTIFUL whenever I look in the mirror, prenatal vitamins have given me tons of energy, and I'm just thrilled that I'm going to have my first baby. I'm scared to tell too many other people so soon because I don't want their judgements all at once.
BEVSAN - i guess nobody is 24hours a day happy about everything - and just because i am pregnant doesnt mean that i have to 'glow' and experience 'the best 9 months of my live' ... So because we do not REALLY appreciate the fact that everybody asks us for details (and anyway forgets them again in a few hours) and touches us - our husbands are cheating??? yezz - THAT is now an interesting logic ..... LOL - happy friday to all
This is exactly how I feel. People at work will ask me 3-4 x a day "how do you feel?" I have contact w/ about 30 employees thruout the day so this gets very tired. I want to shout "the same as I did 5 seconds ago!" Sheesh! If I feel great, I get tired of saying it over and over again and if I feel not so great then I don't want to talk about it!
Love it! I so relate to this, and especially the Peanut butter at 3 am. I thought I was the only one! : )
ladies i am sooo glad i joined this site,., its so good to know i am not hte only one feeling like this, i feel "normal" i am happy for the women who have absolutely no symptoms or complains and enjoy people asking how they feel, but i absolutely hate it.... and get this, my Boss actually said to me, "oh well, its just gonna get worse!" i wanted to kill him and feed him to the lions!!!! what the hell does he know! Seriosuly i just wish people would ignore the fact that i am pregnant, just not say anything... i was in a meeting last week and this ladey actually said to me " you look very chubby, maybe you should cut down on the food" i laugh now but i wanted to kill her then. i cant wait go on maternity leave and just not deal with this anymore.,... we are not miserable we just feel that way, its easy tocritizice when youa re not the one feeling nauseaus 24/7, constipated, dizzy, sleepy and tired all the time and looking like a freakin balloon!!!!!!!!!!!
This is definitely a loaded question. And to you all who say that we should be excited someone cares enough to ask, that is bull. Most of the people (exclusive of our immediate family) don't really care. They just have nothing better to say other than "How are you feeling" and "When are you due again" EVER OTHER FREAKING DAY! Plus they love to ask tons of questions about when you are taking leave and when you are coming back and what are you going to name the baby. For the most part they don't care and just want some office gossip to share with everyone.
Family usually means well, but if you are going to ask the question, be prepared for the answer and don't look shocked when we say we are feeling awesome and this enormous baby growing inside of me is quite uncomfortable. Actually be prepared to offer help like cleaning up your house, doing laundry, going with you to the grocery store and such instead of just saying "oh, I am sorry" Sorry really doesn't help me when I am nine months pregnant! If you REALLY cared about how we are doing, then you would actually do something in your power to at least make us feel better and pamper us a little.
What gets me even more as someone hinted at earlier, is when you actually do complain (after they asked you of course!!!!!) they say the typical "well it will only get worse after the baby gets here" (that is a matter of opinion) or "you think you aren't sleeping now" (well no freaking way I never knew a newborn needed to be fed every 2 hours" or "your life will be over" (actually it is just getting started). So no offense to you well meaning people out there who think you are giving GREAT advise or words of wisdom... KEEP YOUR OPINION TO YOURSELF.
enough ranting.... I guess you all can tell I am hormonal and ready for this baby to be here!
Yes! I know how you feel! My mother-in-law asks me all the time like I am going explode any minute!
I hate it when that question comes up. Its always ahh you dont sound like your in a very good mood, how ya feelin? Im just so sick of people saying i have an attitude and i always seem so irritated. I just wanna look at them and scream well how would you feel if you were gaining weight like never before, your stomach is stretching and it hurts, you crave weird stuff all day and night, your sick all the time, and your so emotional YOU dont even like you!!!! But i just say just a bad day but im fine. GRRRRR it drives me crazy
I HAAAATEEEEE that question. Just because I'm pregnant it doesn't mean we can only talk about my pregnancy;and frankly, I don't like talking about it with anyone except my husband. Why don't they just leave me alone and talk about sth else...........
THANK GOD someone else thinks the same thing I do when my sweet little Grandma ask me EVERYDAY how do you feel and in my mind I am swearing and screaming and I smile nice and say I am ok. LOL If she only knew what went through my mind. HA
I told my mother that very thing. Meaning well, of course, she would call me at work every morning just to ask how I was feeling. That question is the worst during the first trimester, when the answer is almost always going to be negative. So, in answer, "I feel pregnant."
LMAO, P.S. Just wanted to say I'm grateful for this page of comments, I haven't laughed so hard in a while and this actually "hits home" all the way, right on, thank you all for sharing!
LOL Yeah I want to join the foot-shovin' party! I have to say that it hasen't been pften that anyone asks me that.. but when I am it's like exactly! Fat, lazy, and pregnant! Not great, there, you happy? What are you going to do about it? Nothing! So just say something nice to me and youll know by my expression that it makes me 'Feel' happy! Luv.
I hate it when people ask me that, i mean if i wasnt prego would they really want to know?-- No!- they just have nothing else to ask or say so when all else fails ask an open ended question to make me think of something to bring up, when in reality all i want to say is I'm tired, hungry, hormonal, i have gas, and I'm tired of waking up at 3 am to pee. Thank you for asking but please limit it, let us tell you when things change. We are pregnant not dieing.
Yeah my not so great mother in law asks me this EVERY FREAKIN time i see her. and i feel like honestly say how in the hell do you think?? Youve done this twice! then again shes the same woman who told me my morning sickness was all in my head and at that particular moment i hoped i could just throw up on her. hah. :)
I must admit, as a mother and a grandmother, my daughter is expecting in July, her 2nd, my 6th grandchild, (Can't wait to meet you Aiden, I love you), I am guilty of this. I think I ask her, my daughter, everyday. I didn't remember feeling this way when I was pregnant with her or her older brothers. And, to my daughter, I am sorry, if you want me to quit asking, cant guarantee it, but I will try. Love you, hun!!!
I understand peoples intentions are suppost to be soft hearted, but it all depends on when you ask that question. I have times where I'm so happy to answer that question and sometimes I just feel like blah! To everyone I snapped at I'd like to say sorry, but ask me after I give birth! lol!
I've been nicknamed Shamoo, as in the whale...
:)
I do believe "how are you feeling? and "are you excited?" are the most dumbest questions to ask a pregnant woman. Seriously, my co-workers and customers at work ask me these two questions all the time! Drives me insane! A few times I answer "I'm prgnant...I feel pregnant...how else do you think I feel?" And when I'm asked "are you excited" I tell them "no I'm going to kick her like a football when she comes out." Seriously, what kind of questions are these? Sometimes when people ask me how I feel I do answer honestly. I feel like crap today. They usually say "welcome to motherhood" or something along those lines. Then I really want to kick their faces in because they act as if I'm complaining and they didn't ask. I also hate being asked if I'm married or when I'm getting married. But that's a whole nother subject.
My hubby calls me his "Baby Warmer" which I think is lovely! The question I hate is "Do you know what you're having?" I feel like saying, "Yes! A Baby!" I have no intentions of finding out the sex of my baby and receive some very strange looks when I tell people that.
I hate that question the pharmacist at the pharmacy where I live ask me that daily (Is a Rite Aid shop there all the time) I want to just say Im pregnant not terminal how do you think I feel.And my hubbys new name for me is tugboat how rude of him.Just want to choke the next person who daunts the phrase How are you feeling. UUUGH
Yeah. I know how you feel. My friends are always rubbing my stomach, or they call me prego. I keep telling them I hate that term..Whats worse my "loving" hubby to be says I have the beached whale syndrome..
I agree i get asked that or can i touch your tummy, or how far a long are you, do you have any weird cravings yet. All those get so irritating and i'm only 22 weeks!!!
HILLARIOUS!!! I am only 8 weeks pregnant and ALREADY that is driving me nuts...
I couldn't help but chuckle at this one. I get asked how do I feel every day by at least 20 people. It gets annoying having the same question asked so many times per day. Not that I am annoyed at these people, just by the fact that I feel like a broken record!
I think it's really really funny. I feel the same way most of the time.
She read my mind...just forgot to include terrible heartburn along with the 3am Peanut Butter cravings. ;)
Amen!!
this is so very true...I'm tired of hearing it my self and also tired of hearing "why do you get so cranky so fast"UGH!!enough already!!
I know the feeling about this question. I always got that one and the weird cravings questions. That got old really fast. I wanted to make up something so crazy that they'd never ask me again. Oh well.
I understand how that feels its noy so bad wen my bf or mom asks but when all my friends r lik AWW u look so pregnant "how do you feel". Its lik you jus sed it.....Pregnant. lol
i dont see a problem with someone asking. the person that wrote this article really wants the attention because if no one asked you the entire time HOW ARE YOU FEELING, you will feel quite odd. so dont act as if it is so bad when someone ask you that, because the very day you are feeling down, and no one ask you those 4 words. how would you feel STUPID
i think it is different when you dont ever get asked that question.... i'm 7 months and have been asked how i am feeling maybe 5 times the whole pregnancy....
It can definitely be annoying getting asked the same questions over and over.
Of course, if no one asks any questions, then you just hearing a bunch of whining about how nobody cares.
So I don't think outsiders can really win.
LORI, YOU'VE SAID IT!!! I totally agree with Lori... people usually ask this question out of politeness, and they certainly don't mean to be annoying...let's just say it's an annoying habit some people have... and I'm actually surprised that you have so many people asking you this, 'cause usually nobody cares if it's not something of their interest. Hang in there, and believe me, there are worse things they could be saying to you(like some woman sharing how her birth experience was.... without you asking!!)=D
THANK YOU! LOL. If people only realized how annoying that is.......I guess we should throw something back at them as well.....it has to be something quick and just as annoying! But I can't think of anything right now...LOL.
bhahahaha thats so freaking fuuny ...yeah cant stand it ...i dont want to be rude you know oh and im nice so i say great....and then when alone with my hubby i COMPLAIN, poor guy!!
Finally someone knows how I feel when your whole family call U fat alllllllll day Lonnng!!!!!!!
Well to be honest, it doesn't really bother me when people aske me. I'll answer how I feel. I don't go into detail but I'll tell them, today I feel great, or tired, or all I want to do is eat and sleep. I feel blessed that they care to ask. Most who ask are women who have had children of their own and can relate to what I feel. I am not rude, I don't tell them every bit of detail, but if someone asks them have you seen so and so, they can say yes and she feels great or whatever and they can take it from there. Like I said, I feel blessed to have someone really care about how I feel, and when they offer to help me with anything, that makes me feel even better!!
Kick ass, girl! Now that's the shit i'm talkin about!!!
I go through and read some of these comments at my desk when i'm bored at work and I must say you can clearly see the ones who are "happy" with pregnancy and the ones who are "miserable"... and ironically enough the ones who are happy are the ones agreeing with this column, not trashing it!
Every pregnant woman has her little pet peeves that just urk her and we we want to get it out of our system, LET US! The ones bitching about replacing the article girl are the miserable ones quite obviously with just a little too much hormone on her plate!
Keep it up baby-gaga, I love your articles!
I completely agree with your comments. I am SO sick of everyone asking how I feel. I feel like CRAP. I'm tired all the time and have been since I have been pregnant. I want to know HOW and WHERE these woman come from that feel fantastic pregnant? How is that possible? I have NO bursts of energy and never have. I am 34 weeks pregnant and have been told I will get a burst of energy soon. I do not think that is going to happen for me. I am more and more tired all the time. How do these girls get so lucky to feel that good?!!! Let me know what your secret is.
Oh man oh man, on top of EVERYONE asking that question, they think that you are going to break or break down at any moment... they rub your belly and touch you in places that a non-pregnant woman would punch someone...
I got here, in this position by having sex with my hubby, he's the ONLY one that should be touching me, and the only one who reserves the right to ask me on a daily basis how I am feeling... If he doesn't ask, he's in touble, but when he does ask, at least he gets the truth. I can see it now...
Coming from the mother in law---
Liz, how are you feeling?
Well Mother in Law of mine, I feel like crap, your wonderful son thought it would be a great Idea to not only torment me with his own flaws but, to give me a son, just like him to do so for nine months in my belly... my ribs hurt from being KICKED all of the time, my head hurts from not being able to Drink a Beer, have a glass of caffeine in the morning afternoon and night, I can't sit outside and enjoy my cigarette anymore and going to a bar with friends is totally out of the question... on top of everything else, your perfect son thinks that I am just so cute pregnant but... let's talk about trying to have sex when IAM IN THE MOOOD, oh my friend that's non-existant since he's sleeping when iam awake at 4 in the morning... I can't shop enough and I care about the cute things, and all he wants is to hold his son... OH MOTHER IN LAW,
I love your son so much for this...
LOL... Okay, so I only feel those ways every once in a while and in reality, he's a really great hubby and daddy, BUT GEEZ, must you call everyday and ask me how the peanut is.... LOL??? he's NOT A PEANUT, he's a kicking moving tossing turning BUDHA..... (lol...as my hubby rubs the tummy and says... "how's the BUDHA" ironic.......
people are curious creatures. they want to know about something different. if its a person who's had a kid, they're comparing to their pregnancy (is she as irritable as i was?) and if they havent had kids they're simply trying to find out from the best source... a pregnant lady. (whats it like?) take it as a compliment that you are a walking encyclopedia of information and tell them the truth. lying is a crappy thing to do anyway in any condition.
I get that a lot at work. So I finally told them how I really felt. Like how many times I puked before I got there and how sore my boobs are. And can't forget how gassy I am. Then they just look at me and I think well you ask all the time so I thought you wanted to know. The other question I get alot is hows the baby. I just fine I guess or very active tonight or something like that. Can't forget are you excited yet or is my husband excited yet. What do think, I'm pregnant and we tried for more than a year! The stupid questions never end. But what bugs me the most is when the stuipidity comes from a women that has kids!
Oh my god, I know exactly how this is. I work in a large office, and it always seems to be the guys that give that knowing look, and ask those 4 words " How are you feeling" Like they know!!! I feel like crap, I'm tired of being nice, because every time I get grouchy, people give me a little smile, and say, aw it's the hormones. Did they forget I wasn't exactly Sally Smiley to begin with?
That was so funny...made my day...I had a horrible time during my first 3 months, but since then its been pretty good. No one seemed to care or ask when i was 3 months or before, but when you actually are showing they act like you have a disability. Well atleast my family feels that way, my co workers act as if i am in the best physical shape in my life and that i should be able to do anything and everything while at work, when that is sometimes impossible. I have cravings too. Just last night i craved Peas at 11pm. Needless to say my fiance got me some Peas...I am 22 weeks pregnant and my baby boy kicks and kicks, and it actually wears me out...is that normal? I love it most times though...
I had three children and never had a problem with people asking me, "how I feel". Maybe because they wanted to know, and If they are a close family member maybe you should tell them.
Oh my goodness I couldnt agree more! I appreciate the concern as I'm sure many of you do, but come on already, give it a rest!! Thats like someone saying that I'm cranky just because I am pregnant and hormonal, or have pms. NO, my feelings are valid and are very real and just because I am pregnant doesnt mean I haev any quams about putting you in your place!
How true! You really do get sick of people asking you how you are!!!
I commonly get this one. The question is either referanced toward me or the baby. "How are you doing Manda? Hows the baby?" Somedays I really just want to yell at the person that ends up asking me. What some people don't understand is that some of the questions you ask are "loaded" or have more meaning behind them then they think. I usually try to bit my lip but I wont lie I've had my days.
Just be glad that someone cares enough to ask after YOUR welfare - believe me when the baby has arrived you will be taking a back seat!!
It seems as if the comment was written for me, I am so sick of that question and then if answer and people dont like the way i answered it then they are she has a attitude she's then damn it stop asking me questions.
I TOTALY FEEL YOU ON THIS ONE! WHAT DO THEY WANT US TO FEEL LIKE? IM SO SICK OF BEING ASKED THAT QUESTION. I JUST LOOK AT THEM AND SAY HOW DO I LOOK LIKE I FEEL?
OMG!!! U TOOK THE WORDS RIGHT OUT OF MY MOUTH!!!
We just had a family reuion for my husbands family and lucky me i got to take our two year old daughter all by myself and to make matters worse it's become obivious that i'm expecting again for an entire weekend i was despratly tring not to bite off some poor cousins head every 5 min, now i have a blister. hehe why oh why did i marry a man who has 9 aunts and uncles
To you women out there "bothered" by the question of "how are you doing," I'm sorry, but when people ask you that, they are being kind.
It may bother you to get the same question over and over again from different people, but it bothers me more to see how rude, anti-social, and self-centered people are becoming--to the point of where pleasantries are just too much of a bother.
Pregnant or not, uncomfortable or not, you should still have to be polite--and that begins with your thought process. Hopefully, you will teach your little one better than you were.
So, next time you're asked that "dreadful" question, take your rude, thankless self elsewhere to gripe and try not to appreciate that someone cares about you.
well i get to have the best time of taking care of myself and my husband who has a broken leg.... he makes me feel angry because its hard for me to do these sorts of things. my back hurts and the baby keeps moving to a spot that hurts me really bad. i just hope that his leg is better before i cant move anymore!
I know exactly what you mean. Me and my boyfriend just broke up because he said i was ill all the time. I asked him how he thought every other pregnant woman felt, but you know in men's eyes we aren't supposed to be ill or feel bad we're supposed to be ok and happy. WRONG!!! it's the worse feeling to have to go back home to your parents especially when you're over 5 months pregnant.
lo. I thought this was so funny that i put it on my webpage. Every single time i talk to some one, even in im, they ask me how i am feeling.. I how ever alwasy say some thing along the lines of.. "well i am gettin very fat and like to suck on pickles, how do u think i am feeling?" so Kudos to the girls that can still be polite the 18 hundreth time
Oh how true this is! My response was "pregnant" thinking that would answer the question and it would be left at that but obviously people want to hear that you are miserable. Misery loves company and vice-versa. If they feel they can sympathis with you on some level then everything will be ok. Well its not. SMILE!!!
I hear that question all the time "How do you feel" Uggg... It drives me insane.. I just want to kick ppl in the shin and walk away.. but I can't do that.. Its a shame..
lol!!!!!!!! im craking up. its sooooooo true. all this comments are. every other day my stepdad asks have you had ane weird cravings like ice cream with pickles?? i look at him and say you really want to make me trow up dont you?!!?!? and my boyfriend!! omg! everyday he calls n same 2 questions did you take your vitamin?? hows the baby?? i dont know how its doing!! but it better start letting me sleep so i wont fall asleep in school.
It does get a little annoying from time to time. I just feel like a walking invalid (if that makes any sense). I used to get asked that all the time because I have MS. Now I'm "even more" likely to break because I'm dare I say it...PREGNANT!!! The thing is I really think it bothers or even insults/digusts people when I say...."Fine. I feel great!". Like I'm disrespecting my baby and don't appreciate being pregnant.
LOVE the article! My feelings EXACTLY!!!
Ladies,
I know we have our good days and not so good days, but just be glad someone gives a flip about your well being. I am guilty of wanting to say MYOB (Mind your own business), but I manage to keep myself in check.
I would looooooooooooove to answer... NOT OF YOUR BUSINESS... hate when people ask me "how are you?" and there is one worst at least for me "how is the baby doing?" it is like something really private in my life is being touched. I just hate it. Specially those kind of too sympathetic people that say "how is OUR baby doing?". Our? Are you gaining weight?, are you felling like a whale? ..
Unfortunally, I am polite. So I always respond "fine thanxs, we are both fine"
It is not like you are going to spend the whole morning saying: my feet are swelling, stomach is itching, head hurts... bla bla bla...
I just would love that people around me could understand I am pregnant, not sick.
Wow that was written so harshly. I think pregnancy is beautiful, especially once you get past the vomiting(hoping that was the last of it at 22weeks). I love the big belly. I call my prego friends "Big Momma" with love. I look forward to the bigger belly that can only mean- hey she is pregnant. I enjoy every movement of my little girl growing inside me and my husband feeling her. Try not thinking of yourself as a fat blob but the beautiful prego. Cheesey? maybe but a lot better than being a critic of your inevitable expanding belly/body.
This is my second time around and it feels like that question only bothers me more. The thing is not only do I get asked all the time but it seems like I get asked by the same person like once a week. My little sister and I are both pregnant right now and she is 5 years younger than me and this is her first baby. We were in Wal-mart not too long ago and it seemed like everyone was staring at her as if they had never seen a pregnant girl before in their life!!! It is funny that you all have brought up the subject of getting a shirt made with all of the information printed on it because I mentioned the exact idea to her. I told her because she is only 17 that it needs to say "Yes, I am pregnant, I am only 17 years old, yes I know who the father is, No, he is not involved, so, DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM? I know, it sounds kinda hateful but if you could only have seen the looks on these people's faces, you would react the same way. Another thing that bothers me is that I am so picky about what I want to eat and then I finally convince my husband to go and pick me up something and he will ask, "So what do you want?" and I hate it because when it comes down to it, I really have no idea what I want. Everything sounds good but nothing good comes to mind. Anyone else having that problem? LOL! Since this is my second pregnancy, it has come to my attention that people are so fake. I am now 26 weeks and finally showing but I have still only gained 4 pounds (not the case with my first), but when I was about one or two months pregnant I had a couple of people tell me that I was already showing. Now, maybe it is just me but I don't think you can really tell at that point unless you have just ballooned. Then those same people proceeded to rub my not yet really pregnant stomach and say "OHHH, how cute...". I just thought how wierd is that. Until next time all my pregnant companions....
This is perfect! Couldn't have said it better. Why do people feel the need to act like they really care about you just because you're pregnant?
First, kudos to alesha, pam, jenny, and rebecca for their comments, and very well put to Paula and Judy! But for most of you, for the record, I'm not one of those people who ask how people feel when their pregnant. I'm generally too shy for that - but when I hear a pregnant woman answering that question to someone else, I definitely want to listen. Sometimes I can help, sometimes I can't. But people aren't going to know if thay can help unless they know what you're going through. And yes, different pregnant women go through DIFFERENT things. It's not the same for everybody! Heaven forbid that somebody feels great during pregnancy. (Like the sarcasm there). Oh and I've had 2 pregnancies and I got alot of help and helpful advice because I welcomed the question, how do you feel, and answered them honestly and gratefully! Wow, what a concept! And to those of you that have found a "really good way to get people to stop asking that question", they've stopped asking only because they don't really like you anymore , they think you're bitchy, and ultimately, they've just stopped caring about how you feel. Are you happy now?
First, kudos to alesha, pam, jenny, and rebecca for their comments, and very well put to Paula and Judy! But for most of you, for the record, I'm not one of those people who ask how people feel when their pregnant. I'm generally too shy for that - but when I hear a pregnant woman answering that question to someone else, I definitely want to listen. Sometimes I can help, sometimes I can't. But people aren't going to know if thay can help unless they know what you're going through. And yes, different pregnant women go through DIFFERENT things. It's not the same for everybody! Heaven forbid that somebody feels great during pregnancy. (Like the sarcasm there). Oh and I've had 2 pregnancies and I got alot of help and helpful advice because I welcomed the question, how do you feel, and answered them honestly and gratefully! Wow, what a concept! And to those of you that have found a "really good way to get people to stop asking that question", they've stopped asking only because they don't really like you anymore , they think you're bitchy, and ultimately, they've just stopped caring about how you feel. Are you happy now?
Nicely said. I think that is one of the dumbest questions in the world especially if the person asking it has been pregnant before. I mean the rubbing of the stomach doesn't bother me but I hate when people poke at my stomach and talk in baby language. Fish don't like when you tap the glass to there fish bowl what makes you think my child likes it?????????????????????
i actully want to buy a shirt that says all the information too!! i mean god can u just leave me alone! i feel like a taperecorded!
Very funny article. I like to make up different things to say to people who ask how I'm feeling, i.e.,"I FEEL with my hands mostly."
i love that article, i'm not even that big cause i'm only 6 weeks into my pregnancy and i get stupid questions.
just cause its my first
What a one sided response to a genuine question regarding the health of you, mentally and physically, as well as the baby. If the person asking the question is someone with a history of dis-interest in you and your life this response is acceptable and even encouraged. My main concern is that this is something that might be felt by woman only when "How are you feeling?" is posed by a male. If this is or is not the case I would love to know. If it is, usually, as a guy, the questions you ask need to be posed in a way so as not to offend or draw litigation. I feel any genuine concern should be appreciated and understood. If you feel bad when the question is posed then tell me. If the person is concerned this could be an opportunity to vent to a sympathetic ear.
Good Grief! Someone asking you how you feel should bring a smile to your face!
Be glad you are with child, and people care about you! Stop the whining, and enjoy your pregnancy! It will be over, soon! You should be living each day to the fullest!
Also, when strangers want to rub your belly...that shouldn't tick you off! People want to "feel" a sweet little baby! You girls need to lighten up! Change your attitudes from negative to positive! The next time someone asks you..."how do you feel...", why don't you just answer with..."Great!"..or..."not so good, today". Be glad you have so many that care about you!
Oh my i'm so glad i'm not alone in this everywhere i go even with strangers i get asked but most ppl are asking me how do i feel bc i'm carrying twins i feel much like how you do my nickname is tubby or thick an chunky an although i know my b/f means no harm it's hard enough to deal with all the changes in my body an the not fitting into anything anymore. But it's like you asked me how i felt 2 days ago i feel the same hungry tired sore an fat what else do u want me to say i feel beautiful an energetic an light an a feather. GET REAL!!!! I do love being pregnant but hormones can really effect my returning answer when asked that " how do you feel" question comes up!!
That is hilarious! I feel the same exact way...I keep flipping out on my fiancee, but he's become pretty patient and understands that I'm just having another mood-swing. Thanks for the article...it was very entertaining.
somethings i don't like are of course everybody and their dog (sometimes 4-5 people in an hour!) asking how i feel, strangers touching my belly. but one thing that really bothers me is that i am adopted, and my mother has never given birth and she tries to give me advice on my pregnancy...how to eat, dress, how i should feel....this is really stupid
i have been terrible. but you cant tell anyone that, cause then they look at you with pity. like you have some horrible medical problem and there isnt anything anyone can do. well, if there wasnt anything they could do, why ask in the first place?!?!
and my mother in law is the worst. she asks everyday, like i am gonna say something different every time. somedays i REALLY want to tell her how i feel. see if she stops asking after that.
I can see why some would detest this question, maybe i'm not far along enough yet. however, i like to take the opportunity to answer honestly during these nine months. when else can you? If you say "i feel tired", guess who gets to take a nap at the suggestion of everyone without feeling lazy? When else can you say " I feel WONDERFUL!" and truly mean it? Is pregnancy that bad??
Yeah, I totally hate this question? I work with my mother and she asks me every day when i walk in the door. I'm in a bad mood the rest of the day. I go to the store, and the girls there ask How I'm feeling everytime i go in. Did they really want this being asked all the time when they were pregnant? I don't mind it much coming from people that real
Yeah, I totally hate this question? I work with my mother and she asks me every day when i walk in the door. I'm in a bad mood the rest of the day. I go to the store, and the girls there ask How I'm feeling everytime i go in. Did they really want this being asked all the time when they were pregnant? I don't mind it much coming from people that really want to know and can't tell from the expression on my face that I'm not in the mood to talk about How I feel at that moment, Like my mother, but people i work with, will ask me all the time. Especially during my first three months, like they wanted me to say,"I've been barfing my guts up all morning long and i feel like i'm dying" even though i never had morning sickness, just nauseous. Like alot of the women here, the only person i want asking me that all the time is my husband,and he doesn't ever ask. I guess he just figures it's best to stay out of my war path.
I feel ya. There is this one guys at work....When I see him coming I cringe. I jut know he's going to ask. For other people like family, I'm good with it.
A perfect response is to say "Well, the hemorrhoids have been making it hard for me to sit down" Most times it makes the person shut up and stop asking stupid questions. Plus it makes you laugh!
And i thought i was the only one.. haha.. IT drives me nuts.. Its like im not Sarah anymore, now im just "pregnant" The only person i want to ask me regularly is the person wh made me this way.. Other then that i get so irritated.. Its probably pretty clear how i am doing anyways.. they just dont know what else to say because again im not sarah anymore.. Ugh
This is exactly how i feel everyone asks me that only the bad thing is i usually have some grouchy comment about my tummy stretching my awful gas underneath my ribs or the fact i now love limburger cheese!! but hey what can u do?? its all the price to pay to be a mom. i think i'll sue for false advertisement...lol
I totaly know how you fell i hate when people ask me that so i just make up some crap.
When i saw this article. my first thought was no way!! i HATE when people ask me that 15 times a day. dont they know thats its so annoying! another thing i hate is when people ask me. Are you feelin okay? no im not feeling okay! im 5 months pregnant.
this makes me laugh so much because i just got into an arguement with everyone at my house today cause my back is hurting no we dont feel good wwe are pregnant and in constant pain not to mention we cant stop thinking about food at all I hate the hungers that i get and cravings especially when you dont have what you want right then and there help me
yeah it annoys mee
Can't say that I know how you feel... never been there but that is hilarious! You should tell people then they'll leave you alone!
i agree also i hate it when people ask your partner ' how is she feeling " this happens to me at work
Yes, It'd be great if there is a list of 'questions not to ask pregnant ladies'
My pet peeve is 'What gender is ur baby'.
that is the FIRST question these tom, dick and harries ask. Gee, mind ur own biz. Nope, it dun come with a 'how are you' at all
I so know how all you feel! Nothing is worse than being asked the same thing over and over! My biggest pet peeves are people touching my belly without asking! DONT TOUCH ME! rub your own.
Me and my husband didnt find out what the sex of our baby is, k, but you know everyone we know ask us so do you know what your having? If I knew why would i keep it a secret. If I did know and I was goin to tell everyone I would have done so when I found out.... duh!
The way I see it is they just dont get it!
hahhahahahaha
I'm 22 weeks pregnant and I feel great! I love that people are so concerned and supportive. I had the same experience with my last pregnancy. I also don't mind that people want to touch my belly. I've never had anyone do it in a way that was unloving or unexcited about my current and upcoming gift of this child. Having had so much loving attention in and out of utero, I think, has helped my 2 year old daughter to be very outgoing, loving, charming and easy. I also feel that our own attitude as pregnant women and mothers affects how we feel and how our children feel now and later
I don't know if it's bad to ask "how i feel" or if it's worse to have a severely obese women ask me how far along i was and when I answered 5 months she said "WOW YOUR HUGE!"
Either way you look at it someone is going to be ignorant enough to ask or answer a question that you just don't want to hear.
He He!! And I thought that I was the only person that EVERYBODY asked "How do you feel?
" I do find it annoyingonly because it is the only question that people seem to ask!!! Is there no originality? I just reply to this question the same every time with "Round, how about yourself?"
Yes,yes i always get asked the same question, it's irritating. Also when i don't feel good i always get asked, what hurts? and what does it feel like? Also when u go visit family members or whomever, they don't look at u they directly look at ur stomach to see if ur any bigger and everyone just wants to feel ur belly, it's VERY annoying. "How are you feeling", "Did u eat already", "Are u hungry", "You need to eat for two now", I am so annoyed oh, "How many months are you", " Is it a boy or a girl", "Have you gone to the doctors' yet". It's just what we have to go through during our pregnancy...
me2. what really bugs me: Are you hungry? No. Oh well than, eat something. I'm not hungry. What did you eat?!
Seems simple but it just completely irritates me. Just because I'm pregant doesn't mean I have to load my face with unnessacary food. When I'm hungry, I eat. End of story.
I told my mom of this and she went into the "Well they care about you." and I told her to sit down and think how annoying people where WHEN SHE WAS PREGANT. she shut up after that.
Oh, Do I agree with that. This is my first pregnancy, and If there is a symptom I can guaranty I have or have had it. Then every other person asks the same thing, how are you feeling!!!
Lol I have to say that this article I can agree and disagree. I have my days where I want to slap the next person who so much as looks at me, but then I also have times where I want the attention so much that it hurts! I throughly enjoy being pregnant because it's the last time it's all about YOU. When the baby gets here they aren't going to care how you feel lol.
I think this question is so selfish. Think of all the women who want a baby sooo BAD. They would love for someone to ask them that question!
I loved your article! "pudgy" is cute.. my husband called me "Blueberry" since it was the most comfortable sweater I had and it was that light blue... imagine asking how you feel after your husband yells "Blueberry, what are you craving now?" down the whole isle in the grocery store! It's good to know I'm not alone!!
Hahaha, this is soo funny I wish I read this article before my sister was pregnant every moment I had to speak to her the first thing I asked was How do you feel? Hahaha I only asked because I care...
OKAY, FOR EVERYONE WHO IS LIKE--"GEE WIZ HEAVEN FORBID SOMEONE CARES ABOUT YOU!" YOU MUST BE ONE THE TWITS THAT ARE ASKING ALL THE DUMB QUESTIONS. GET OVER IT AND FINE SOMEHTING ELSE TO TALK ABOUT. SOMETHING THAT INTEREST US WALKING WATERMELONS LIKE FOOD, SLEEP, OR THE COMBINATION OF THE TWO.
ANYWAY I AM ABOUT 7 MONTHS ALONG AND STILL FINE MYSELF ASKING THE SAME STUPID QUESTION TO OTHER PEOPLE. I THINK IT IS JUST WHAT PEOPLE THINK YOU ARE SUPPOSE TO SAY FOR PROPER PREGNANT CONVERSATION. OR MAYBE THEY JUST WANT TO HEAR ALL THE GORY DETAILS OF HOW YOU TOSSED YOUR COOKIES AND USED PREPERATION H 3 TIMES THIS WEEK :) THAT'LL SHUT 'EM UP !!
well...i have forund a way to get them to stop asking. Ready for this.....LOOK AT THEM THEN LOOK AT YOU BELLY ROLL YOUR EYES AND...WALK AWAY..THE NEXT TIME THEY SEE YOU THEY WILL REMEMBER HOW YOU REACTED AND WILL NEVER ASK AGAIN..WORKS EVERYTIME
I agree this question is very annoying...but its more annoying when they ask both you and your husband because he might need back surgery because of a fricken cow, and I am just annoying with the 20 questions I'm always getting. "how are you feeling today?" "are you going to find out if its a boy or a girl?" Are you going to stay home after its born?" How's your hubby? Have you heard anything else from the doctor?" "Did they find out whats wrong with him?" What did this doctor say?"... It's going just great between me being moody and my husband being able to only do so much and not being able to run around to get thigns done like I used to along with all the wonders that come with pregnancy...I'm great, really...ask me again tomorrow, and I'll still feel the same. Just please stop asking so many questions, because if I really felt like telling you...I WILL!! anyway, thats how I feel. Good luck to the rest of you who are ready to explode!
HEHEHe that so funny but yet it so true at the same time..esp.from those friends that dont have children.like i want to tell them that every time it cold or when i go into the store in frezzer ailes i have walk way because i get really bad breast pains
thnks
rachel
Here's another one for you.."Are you planning to breastfeed?" No lady, I'm planning on giving her a 40 and a pack of hot dogs and calling it a day. Because obviously you feel the need to inquire about a decision that is months away.
that is just hilarious. I think we all feel that way... haha
I am pregnant with my third child and HATE this question. I agree with everyone else...HOW DO YOU THINK I FEEL??? It amazes me that women who have children neven ask this question, they know how it feels. No pregnant woman wants to be asked "how do you feel, how much longer, do you have any names yet, haven't you had that baby yet", and so many other things people ask. I now know when I encounter pregnant women to talk about anything but the pregnancy unless SHE brings it up.
It never fails. Every two to three days, my stepfather calls. "How are you feeling?" Me: Just fine, just fine... "How's the baby?" Me: She's kicking up a storm. It's the same convo EVERY SINGLE TIME! I don't REALLY know how she is. I don't carry a personal ultrasound and doppler with me 24/7. If I had to guess though, I bet she's cramped up, extremely bored (I don't get the internet or cable TV in my womb, anyone else?). And I'm hoping to God that she's not claustrophobic (like every one else in my family) because, well, that's not the largest condo she could be living in...I wish these dumb questions could wait until AFTER she's born, so that I actually have some type of idea how she's doing. And I wish she'd hurry up and be born, I miss my frigging cute jeans!
Oh I hate this question! I've got 22 days left and everyday when I go into work it's the same 3 questions from everyone who sees me ON ALL 3 SHIFTS! "How are you feeling?" Pregnant! "How's the baby?" I'll let you know when I have her. "You haven't had that thing yet?" Come on people! If I had had the darn thing I wouldn't be here looking like I'm smuggling a basket ball
I'm pretty sure no one really wants an overly honest answer. I would love to share about my horrible constipation and monsterous hemmroids that are there as a result.
great. now your miserable ass doesn't want anyone to care. sarcasm is a lot different than ignorance! baby- gaga please replace this woman!
Oh i hear ya on this one!!! Im still in school so between complete strangers randomly touching my belly they also say "How are You Feeling..." Well im 5 1/2 months pregnant and still have horrible morining sickness and when i dont i have horrible heart burn!!! I just wana hit them!!!
I feel like that is me. I get no Sleep. no matter what my husband does its never right. constant pain. and i havnt had the bub yet
thats so true i hate to be asked that same question...and when you get asked like a million times in like 5 minutes... that sucks too.. welll if you had a baby am really happy for you.... congrats!!!!!!
Oh my God!!! I hate that question ... I hate it... everyone's asking all the time... I look fine... my belly didn't grow tooo too much and I've had no morning sickness ever... I make an effort to look even better when I'm pregnant so that I don't look miserable (which I'm not) and people still ask! Why? I don't answer and ask them right back ... how do you feel? They laugh and try to walk away. I even followed an old lady down the hall at work and asked her not to ask questions she's not willing to answer herself. Lately a lot of oversized people have been saying "oh... look at your tummy.. come here so I can see it"... then I reply "let me see yours"... I'm so mean but it just slips out.
As much as I hate that question and all of the other stupid questions people ask when you're pregnant, I am glad someone acknowledges that I probably don't feel well. I hate it the worse when the woman I don't like (and I am pretty sure she feels the same) asks me. I almost feel like she knows I feel bad, she just wants to hear me say it. I feel like total crap right now and I feel the need to tell someone that sometimes. I am constipated and I am very sleepy at this current moment, that's why instead of working I am looking on the internet.
I LOVE that question. I'm six months pregnant and my husband hardly ever asks me how I'm feeling. I could be half dead and I bet he wouldn't notice. I don't think it is because he doesn't care but he just doesn't think to ask. I think it is really nice when people care enough to truly care how you are feeling. It makes me feel loved.
I hate this question!!! Today is christmas and I must have answered this question 800 times!! Sooo annoying!! Well its over i wont have to answer till i leave my house again and i am not planning in that for at least 3-4 days
I feel the same way, but yet I'm too nice, even with my hormones out of whack, I just tell them that I'm fine, I dont go any further, so they don't probe.
I respond "Fat" and then walk away.
Usually drives home the message that I'm frustrated and gets them to quit asking.
I'm not alone!! I thought I was the only one that had the urge to kick someone in the gut and ask them "Now how do you feel??" every time I get that question. LOL!!!
The way that I stopped that question from being asked. Someone would come up to me and ask me how I was feeling I'd look at them without any hesistation and say "Im not sure why don't you ask that corn dog slathered with mustard, the salt and vinegar potato chips, the dozen chocolate chip cookies and and latte that I had for lunch which is now being enjoyed by the trashcan over there." After you describe these things enough nobody asks you anymore. Wonder why?
OMG! I could've written that myself lol. Too funny!, and with carrying our third child, you would think I would know how people react, but it still manages to annoy me!
Ya know, the how you feel question isn't the one that bothers me. It's the "this IS your last baby, right?" and "how's OUR baby doing?" questions. People are genuinely surprised when I tell them, that although this is baby #3 I'm planning on having a few more if my finances can handle it and quite frankly, the ONLY person I expect to hear the words "OUR baby" from is my husband and he doesn't ask me that. I get that from people at work. It does make me want to ask them if they're pregnant too...lol.
i definately know how u feel, i hate that question myself... n my fiance ask r u mad, every time i'm quiet n not feel like talkin n jus relax? n my mom, "r u hungry?" obviously i am every hr so y ask right..lol
I wanna get a shirt that says.. I'm pregnant!! How do you think I freakin feel!!!
Lol. That is the exact reason I didn't want to tell anyone I was pregnant until I started showing. (Course my husband just could NOT wait that long) I tried to tell everyone this and they all just said..."Well, Meghan, that's not very nice," or "They're just being nice." Etc.
I don't go up to strangers and ask them how they feel. Just because I've got a baby belly, they suddenly have the right?
Man, I wish I had a shirt like that.
It never bothered me ppl asking how I felt I could answer that question. The one I hated is how's the baby going???or how's the baby doing??? umm well last time I checked it's still there kicking so not much changes really...
"Sarcastic journalist"? More like "embittered" or "cynical", I'd say. God forbid people would have the nerve to ask how you're feeling! How dare they care enough about you to be concerned with your personal comfort and pregnancy mile-stones? See that? That's call sarcasm, what you're doing is griping.
The people asking just might care about the answer. So I answer honestly. When I'm tired, I say so and people usually offer to take the older kids or help in some other way. If I say I'm feeling great, my friends and family know it's a good time for an outing - shopping or a fun girls night out. I personally like that my friends and family care. I don't know what's going to make you feel you can't be honest with the people in your life, but you should probably deal with that.
I feel the same way. I am so fed up with this question. I am 22 weeks pregnant. I used to answer this question with the same response..."I feel fine." Now I just answer it truthfully. I tell anyone that asks, "my back hurts, this baby kicks all night long so I rarely get to sleep well, and I forget thing all the time. Anything else you want to know?" Usually they don't ask me that question again. I agree with Emma, they someone should write a book titled "Questions Never to Ask a Pregnant Lady". One other question I wish people would stop asking is, "Are you craving any odd food today?"
Oh yes I can relate to that, more annoying still is the responses you get to what you reply. If you say I am exhausted in a lot of pain and cannot get a decent nights sleep, they will say oh not too bad then or at least you are not being sick, agggggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhh
I totally agree with you all, i am pregnant at the moment and 7 months along. My colleages come up to me everyday and say "how's the baby today" like hello i can't read it's mind it is inside of me and complete strangers that serve me at a shop always ask me "awwm how far along are you?" like yeh i answer them with a polite response but when you hear that question everyday you get sick of it so i think there should be a book or an article or something that has the title "Question's never to ask a pregnant lady" it would be good.
That is sooo funny! When I was preganant with my first baby, a woman I used to work with ALWAYS asked me that! Every day.. same thing when she came in.. "Hi Maria. How are you feeling?" My response was always, "Fine. Thanks." Until one day...... I felt terrible. I was having Braxton Hicks contractions for the fifth day in a row, my daughter's toes were wedged up into my ribs, and I was hungrier than a horse! So I finally said what I had wanted to say for 8 months.. "Becky, don't ask me that ever again. You have asked me every day for 8 months. Sometimes I do feel fine, sometimes better than fine. But when I don't, and I do feel like crap, I have wanted to tell you. I have a baby in my belly! Kicking, and pushing, and making me sick. There. Ok. Now do you think you could quit asking me how I feel?!?!" Boy did that feel great! haha And would you believe this.. after my 6 weeks of maternity leave, I came back to work and the first thing that woman asked me was, "Hi Maria. How do you feel?" I quit that job 3 weeks later, and haven't seen her since.
Anytime anyone asks me, and yes, I get it all the time....My reply is always the same. "How do you feel?" "Pregnant!" And I usually leave it at that. They usually don't have much to say after that.
this couldnt be any more true; and then they ask hows the baby? uhhh i wouldnt really know because the baby is inside of me so im not too sure but from i can feel the baby is fine...how about you how are your LUNGS??!!!?? Its always the same people who tend to ask these questions every single day like ok i and my baby feel the same as we did yesterday and the day before!
What is really annoying is when your boyfriend/husbabnd/mom/uncle asks you did you take your pill? Everyday did you take your pill.
you should feel happy people care!!! arghhh , you sound so low!
There is one thing that annoys me more than people asking how I feel AND THAT IS COMPLETE STRANGERS COMING UP AND RUBBING MY BELLY!! That really gets me ticked off, I mean personal space here people!!
Oh and I just thought I'd add that through my first pregnancy my then boyfriend (now husband) dudded me 'Oh Gracious Fat One', fortunately for him he hasnt persisted with that this time!!
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AS NICE IT IS THAT PEOPLE ARE CONCERNED..THEY JUST WANT TO HEAR SOMETHING NEW I THINK AND IF THEY FEEL THAT YOU WONT TELL THEM,THEY'LL ASK HOPING THAT YOU WILL SAY OH IT STARTED KICKING NOW,OR I DONT FEEL GOOD,SO THEY CAN SYMPATHIZE WITH YOU,FAKELY...I HATE IT WHEN PEOPLE ASK ME THAT...THEN I HATE EVEN MORE WHEN PEOPLE ASK THEN I SAY UM FINE?AND THEY GO ON AND ON ABOUT HOW PREGNANCY IS AND HOW THEY KNOW WHAT IM PROBABLY FEELING...WHEN MOST OF THE PEOPLE HAVENT EVEN HAD KIDS!SO I JUST TELL THEM WELL WHEN U GET A BABY IN UR BELLY FOR 9MONTHS THEN HAVE TO PUSH IT OUT LIKE A BASKETBALL THROUGH A KEYHOLE,YOU TELL ME HOW YOU FEEL!
Well... i do see how that would be annoying!! But it beats people not asking! like me for example.. My boyfriend hasnt asked me "how i feel"! as a matter of fact he hasnt really asked me anything! so feel a little lucky to have someone that actually cares enough, to ask you a stupid question over and over!
I did find your article funny though!
lol! yeah that question blows..but whats worse.. is now..at 38 weeks the only thing people say to me is..."its getting close huh? are you getting anxious?" every day.. they see me every day.. and that is the only thing they can think of saying.. i would rather talk about the weather.
Its a loaded question. One day, I'm going to honestly answer someone and tell them everything that is going on, from being slightly constipated to feeling like a beached whale and everything in between. People who ask this want to hear you tell them that everything is great so that they dont have to deal with anything. I agree with bekah, never ask a pregnant woman that question.
How do you feel?
YES YES YES! Why do people feel the need ask me this OVER AND OVER AGAIN? Do they REALLY want to know how often I've been throwing up or how sore my nipples are? No, of course not! I hate this question, it should be banned from ever asking a pregnant woman this unless you're the one who got her pregnant!
Exactly. I can relate to this, word for word. That is the worst question to ask a pregnant woman. Especially ten times a day, everyday.